Indiana Chronicles

Green Acres: The Final Episode

2010-07-30T09:05:00.000-04:00

Today is the final post for Indiana Chronicles, and the final post for this week's Tails of Green Acres. You can however follow our next blog by subscribing to [Click: New Blog]
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A lot has changed in Green Acres since Uncle Haney first called Arnold (the Pig) Ziffell lll a "Fag" in college. For instance, thanks to progressive Farmers in Iowa, Arnold Z was able to legally marry his new beau Eb Dawson in an small Iowa church built amidst the cornfields. It was a big family affair (mostly friends vs. blood relations), and after all, it's Love that Makes a Family. Standing up for him though was Uncle Haney's eldest brother and for Eb was his 91-year-old grandfather. As the Pastor united the "Dawson-Ziffells" in wedded gay bliss, the choir sang, "Green Acres we are there!"

THE END

Green Acres: Granny's Cookie Jars

2010-07-29T09:35:00.000-04:00

Granny Z (Arnold's grandmother) collected cookie jars, and she'd promised them to her 3 granddaughters and their husbands as wedding gifts. She had 100s of them. When she passed away, Uncle Haney sneaked over to her farmhouse one night, loaded them all up, and stole away north to Petticoat Junction to give them all to his daughter alone. Arnold Z lll also wanted a husband and a wedding, but now he'd never get a cookie jar.

Green Acres: Uncle Haney's Loan

2010-07-28T08:30:00.047-04:00

A few years ago, Arnold lll’s dad, asked him to make a loan to Uncle Haney. At the time, no one else in the family would help so Arnold said, “sure;” even though his longtime partner Davie squealed that his tail would be screwed! Arnold however was careful to get Uncle Haney's signature for repayment, but he was still in for a surprise. As soon as Uncle Haney got the cash, he had lawyer Douglas file bankruptcy. Arnold’s name was first on the list, right above the John Deere dealer.

Green Acres: Arnold Comes Out

2010-07-27T08:30:00.028-04:00

In his college senior year, Arnold Ziffell, lll came "Out" as a Gay pig. When his Uncle Haney found out, he knocked him flat to the ground with the threat, “No one with my pappy’s name is going to be a Faggot!” Recently though, Haney's son bragged to Arnold how proud he was that his Dad (Uncle Haney) had always stood up for Arnold’s right to be a Gay pig. Arnold thought, "So, that was proud? I'm glad he wasn't upset."

Green Acres: Dating Light vs. Dark

2010-07-26T08:30:00.019-04:00

During this final week, we say farewell with five days of Tails about Green Acres famous pig actor:

When Arnold (the Pig) Ziffell, lll was in college, way up north in Petticoat Junction; he brought a female pig over for Sunday dinner to his Aunt & Uncle Haney’s house. It was a nice meal (no bacon) but the next day, Aunt Haney admonished Arnold saying, “Don’t you ever bring a dark pig here again! You are already dark, and dark pigs should only date light pigs." After that, Arnold never brought another dark female pig to the Haney's house. Instead, he started dating blonde white-boy pigs, and he fell for one named Davie.

St. John's Lutheran Church | Georgia

2010-07-24T17:00:00.002-04:00

Georgia's St. John's Lutheran Church, organized in 1869, is the oldest Lutheran church in Atlanta. The sanctuary, added on in 1969, is a contemporary octagonal shape representing the "eighth day of creation" (our new creation through our baptism into the death and resurrection of Jesus), was considered very contemporary in 1969" (How clever is that?). I met the recently reinstated "Gay" pastor, Brad Schmeling at the National Underground Railroad Freedom Center in 2008 as part of a forum of gay discrimination in the church. We’ll be there tomorrow.

1 Week Left; What's Next?

2010-07-23T10:27:00.000-04:00

One more week left. We want to thank everyone who joined us over the last 104-weeks (52 in NYC and 52 in Indiana). Because of you, we never felt alone on our journeys (or felt lost thanks to Mike & Phil's compass). What have we shared? How about worship at over 50 churches from San Francisco to Boston; the learning of the language of marriage equality; seeing a picture of Greg taken by Opera diva Jessye Norman in the lobby of Carneige Hall; laughter with Leslie Kreines in a crowd of 100,000 Halloween party-goers; paying respects at my father's passing; my own hospitalization; the naming of a new museum memoir; and you've joined our gawking at windmills in northern Indiana.

For 52+52-weeks, you never left us alone; and it's with some saddness and a lot of pride that we bring the Chronicles (NYC and Indiana) to a close. Next week: Monday-Friday are the final 5 posts. What's next? There are five things in the hopper:

I''ll be seeking a publisher for the museum memoir;
I'll be working full-time on my ministry; and the study of religious art history [Click: here];
Greg & I will be sharing a new blog "A Wonderful Life with Disney" [Click: here];
I'll begin writing a new work, "52 Weeks in Sodom & Gomorrah" about my year in NYC; and
We'll be looking forward to your visit right here in Green Acres.

We love you! And remember, there's no place like "home."

Babbling Brook

2010-07-22T09:01:00.001-04:00

Do you have a friend that's very talkative? I apologize to both my husband and my mother-in-law for the times I seem to ramble on-and-on. I have a friend at work who babbles. He jumps from subject-to-subject without a single pause. He doesn't seem to notice if I even respond! Yesterday, I imagined myself choking him to "silence"!

Family Drama

2010-07-21T07:40:00.016-04:00

His children didn't even come to his funeral. When Harrison's first wife died, he married her niece; for which his children disowned him. Fatherhood vs. manhoood choices can be tough, or at least that's the experience of Indiana's only U.S. President, Benjamin Harrison (1889-1893). My tour of his 16 room Italianate Victorian mansion included family gossip. It's too bad his blood relations didn't learn what gay's have to learn early-on, "It's Love [not blood] that makes a Family." Any drama in your family?

Book Title Winner

2010-07-20T08:00:00.043-04:00

Thanks to all of you who took the time to vote for best manuscript title last week. The top vote-getter is "My Story: A PR Journey" submitted by Allen in NYC, but all nominations were memorable. Voters must claim your prize for that fabulous overnight in Green Acres by Thursday, July 23.

Raise Your Hand

2010-07-19T09:22:00.002-04:00

Yesterday, when the minister at First Christian Assembly of God asked who needed "prayer", I raised my hand expecting everyone else to do the same. To my surprise, in seconds; the hands of six people were "laid on me" as the prayer began. Then I noted that only a few of us had actually raised our hand for a prayer (Greg was so shocked he laid his hand on me too!). It was our first experience with Pentecostal "laying on of hands"; and the lesson was, "don't raise your hand on the first visit to a new church."

Countdown: Just 2 Weeks Left!

2010-07-16T07:00:00.009-04:00

Best 5 things of my week? (#5) Tour of Lucas Oil Stadium with Rita; (#4) Argentina became the first Latin American country to legalize marriages by gay couples; (#3) Your voting for the best book title (voting continues through tomorrow); (#2) Finishing chapter 10, featuring friends like Leslie Kreines, Shawn Cox and Leo Calderon; and (#1) Greg returned to the day-shift!

Looking for Adventurous Suggestions!

2010-07-15T09:33:00.002-04:00

Have you been to Atlanta and/or Minneapolis? My husband and I are driving to both cities to visit my family. We would love some "to-do" suggestions for our drives, and while in these two great cities. Don't be shy, send something adventurous our way!

$7 Football Tour

2010-07-15T08:30:00.015-04:00

I don't care much for football (Greg does) but I had to tour the $720 million, seven-story, 2-million sq. ft. Lucas Oil Stadium with its retractable roof! I went with my friend Rita. It is home of the Indianapolis Colts; seats 63,000 and opened in 2008. Tickets for a single game range from $48-139 (all sold out), and Greg and his mom paid $150@ just to be on the waiting-list. I paid $7 for the tour with zero wait.

Touchdown Jesus

2010-07-14T07:00:00.008-04:00

I finally saw the original "Touch Down Jesus." On Saturday, we drove up to the University of Notre Dame (3hrs); toured campus, bought my sonny a gift, and ate on campus at Legends. We also picked up some South Bend chocolates and visited the College Football Hall of Fame Museum. We wore our Big 10 shorts for this outing: mine OSU and Greg's IU. Oh, what about TD Jesus? It's a stunning 134 ft high byzantine style mural on the front of the library; and nothing like the clumsy sculpture that burned down in Cincinnati. I want one for our house.

Vote For Book Title | Win Gift!

2010-07-13T07:00:00.023-04:00

It's time to vote for one of the thirty "great" book title options you sent me on April 30 (43 total). Voting is open through Saturday, and each voter wins a coveted "free" over-night stay here in Green Acres! I thank you in advance: [click here to vote].

The Week's Schedule

2010-07-12T09:39:00.001-04:00

MON | New barber “His & Her’s”, and new-look today at 10:30 am
TUE | D-day on future of Cincinnati property
WED | Tour Lucas Oil Stadium (Colts), just $7
THU | Indiana Black Expo exhibit hall
FRI | IMA picnic & outdoor movie, “Rocky Horror”
SAT | Launch party of Devonshire in Cincinnati
SUN | Seeing new movie, “Inception”. Also FYI, I loved (Greg hated) last week’s gruesome “Predators”

Top 5 of Week (3 Weeks Left)

2010-07-09T08:34:00.010-04:00

(#5) Unity Temple in Oak Park, IL is a Frank Lloyd Wright gem; (#4) A Piece of Work is a hilarious and bawdy documentary about Joan Rivers; (#3) Yesterday's Federal judge ruling that married gays deserve equal benefits; (#2) Twelve hundred, twirling, 400 ft. windmills along I-65; and (#1) Today's final edits on chapter 9 (Alliances) of our book.

Where to Retire?

2010-07-08T07:02:00.000-04:00

Have you thought about retirement and where you plan to retire? If money were no object my dream retirement would be to keep our home here in Green Acres, and to also buy a small bungalow in Key West. We occasionally discuss this topic knowing we'll likely have to pick only one. What is your dream retirement?

New Report: Catholics+ Support Gay Rights

2010-07-07T15:20:00.003-04:00

Two organizations, Public Religion Research and Third Way, have jointly released "Beyond the God .Gap," a new roadmap for overcoming religious stereotypes and negotiating shifting religious landscapes. The report found that majorities of four major religious groups support laws protecting LGBT people, including over 70% of Roman Catholics! View the full report in PDF [here]

Mr & Mr NYC Marry in Iowa

2010-07-07T08:30:00.017-04:00

I didn't make a lot of new friends in NYC but one pair that I did like was Tim Scoffield and his fiance, now husband/furniture designer Mitchell Gold. On June 19th they left NY to legally marry in Iowa, and per The New York Times (and Tim's FaceBook) they are now Mr/Mr Gold. Congrats gentleman. One more reason to love Green Acres!

St. Joan of Art | Missouri

2010-07-06T08:30:00.006-04:00

Standing in the shadow of the Saint Louis Gateway Arch is the historic “Old Cathedral.” Formally known as the Basilica of Saint Louis, King of France, it is the fourth structure since 1770. Inside is a large copy of Valasquez’s famed “Crucifixion,” as well as statues of Saint Louis and Saint Joan of Arc.

Casket City, USA

2010-07-05T09:00:00.001-04:00

Another sleepy Indiana town that I was "dying" to visit is Batesville. As the largest makers of both hospital beds and coffins, they're best know for making Michael Jackson's golden coffin. While the Batesville Casket Company headquarters are palatial, it's not really much of a town (pop. 6,033). But when your time comes, you'll likely end up in a hospital bed followed by a coffin made right there in Casket City, USA.

Lady Liberty & Boyfriend

2010-07-04T08:30:00.008-04:00

This is what happens when you take a Green Acres boy out of the country and send him to NYC. Happy 4th of July!

Count down: Chapt 8 (4 wks left)

2010-07-02T09:05:00.001-04:00

What are your plans for the 4th of July? We are headed to Gary, Indiana to visit Michael Jackson's boyhood home, followed by dinner at Taste of Chicago. On Sunday, we'll worship at Frank Lloyd Wright's Unity Temple (Maybe I can find a cross) and then head back to Indy for a AAA Indianapolis Indians baseball game with fireworks! I'll finish editing up our chapter 8 today so that on Monday, we can sleep-in. Your plans?

Two Wheeled Terror

2010-07-01T08:09:00.004-04:00

Do you have an opinion about motorcycles? My dad owned one when I was growing up so I've been a passenger on one a few times. Now my husband seems to want one, and it worries me to no end. Please share your pros and cons. I need some assistance, thanks!

27 Years for the Freedom to Marry

2010-06-30T08:13:00.001-04:00

Brenda and Dawn met 27 years ago underneath a bed. They were both working as nurses when Brenda spotted Dawn underneath a patient's bed. Dawn was looking for the patient's dentures; and both he and she were having a great laugh together as she searched. When Brenda, who didn't yet even know she was Gay, heard Dawn's laughter she instantly fell in love. Imagine their laughter together, when they have the freedom to marry.

A Cross to Spare

2010-06-29T08:30:00.041-04:00

From vampire movies to the Roman Catholic Church, I've always been excited to see the "Cross". So, imagine my excitement traveling along I-70, when a huge 20-story cross appeared on the Green Acres horizon! Sadly, they won't let me take it home to Hooterville; and Greg won't let me build a 198-ft tall replica in our front yard; so I've begun collecting much smaller versions. I have only have a few so far. If you have a Cross to spare, send it my way!

Daily Mass of Friends

2010-06-28T12:10:00.001-04:00

I finally stumbled upon a home for weekday noon mass, St. John the Evangelist Catholic Church is within a block of Indy's downtown shopping center. There's even a line for confession, and it's starting now. Since there's only Sunday mass down in Hooterville, I'm finally free of Mother Angelica's EWTN! Yesterday, I even worshiped at Indy's SS Peter and Paul Cathedral. They have some impressive sacred art, and I made some new friends.

Count Down: Chapter 7 (5 Weeks Left)

2010-06-25T08:30:00.031-04:00

Looking for something cool to do on this hot Friday night? Join me at the Indiana/World Skating Academy in downtown Indy. This two-rink icebox was built to coincide with Indy's hosting of the 1987 Pan Am Games, and it's open to the public every Friday night (7-9pm). It's so cold, you'll wish you wore a jacket. I did. Speaking of "cold", I should finish our chapter 7 on "Race" today. It begins with a quote by Chief Supreme Justice Tanye (1857), who said, "Blacks had no rights which the white man was bound to respect."

Rain in Green Acres

2010-06-24T10:03:00.002-04:00

Has your town seen a lot of rain this Spring and early Summer? We sure have! I work for "MA Bell" and we have been put on forced overtime until further notice. 10 hour Days, 7 Days a week until further notice. I see all the damage caused by the flooding everyday! Homes and farmers fields in ruins. Has any of this happened near you?

Getting Time Off to Care for Gay Partner

2010-06-23T08:30:00.014-04:00

It's not the same as marriage rights but soon, Gay couples will be able to take time off to care for their sick spouse thanks to President Obama. Under a 1993 law, a husband or wife who works for a company with 50 or more employees are generally entitled to 12 weeks of unpaid leave to care for a newborn or for a spouse, son or daughter with “a serious health condition.” Now, the Prez is expanding this benefit to include gay partners too.

Gay Liberation Theology

2010-06-23T08:30:00.006-04:00

This coming Saturday at 9 am, GCN will offer their annual 1-day conference. What is GCN? It stands for the Gay Christian Network but it's for "all" Christians who want to reverse the church's reputation as being homophobic. It costs $30 at the door which includes lunch. We'll be there. If you want to come up, you can stay overnight with us. Below are some of the churches I've spoken to which I expect to participate:

Art Above the Sanctuary | Indianapolis

2010-06-22T09:30:00.006-04:00

This artist studio at Harrison Arts Center, located above a Presbyterian church sanctuary blew my mind. From floor to ceiling -- at least 30 feet high, were stacked 100s of religious paintings, statuary and shadow boxes. The floors were filled with books, papers and assorted junk too; but in a small space near the room's center, the artist, Kipp Normand has a small table for his work.

Favorite Place in Green Acres

2010-06-21T10:38:00.001-04:00

What's your favorite hometown place? In Hooterville, I like the farm next to our house but up in Indy, there are dozens of places. There's the Artsgarden, IMA, Speedway and Broad Ripple, but my favorite is the Indianapolis Central Library. This limestone temple was built in 1917 and in 2007, an addition of glass & steel was made that virtually wraps the library in a perpetual glow of "cool". I'm there now. The only problem is I don't live here, and although Hooterville has no library, it does have farms.

Book Notes: Chap 6, "The Program" (6 Wks Left)

2010-06-18T10:35:00.009-04:00

Yesterday, I finished editing chapter 6 of our book and it begins with Abraham Lincoln's quote: "The highest art is always the most religious, and the greatest artist is always a devout person." That quote is on my mind today as I enter the Disciple Center in downtown Indy. A 4' tall sculpture, "Victory of Faith" is the first thing that greets me; a good omen for this "artsy" gay Roman Catholic. This is the world headquarters for the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ) and I'm getting a private tour of its collection.

Working Past 70 Years

2010-06-17T07:34:00.004-04:00

Will you be working after age 70? While at a local fast-food joint, an elderly crew member explained how she had to follow behind her younger co-workers cleaning up their mistakes. She said, "I believe they make more messes than our customers, but I love my job!". Why are so many seniors working after age 70, or is it just here?

American Legion

2010-06-16T17:00:00.001-04:00

Nationwide, there are 14,700 Local Posts (those little bars for vets), and they are run out of Indiana. Following the founding of the American Legion in 1919, it has been headquartered, not in New York City or Washington, D.C. but right here in Green Acres. Why here? My guide Joyce explained, "Because, back then, no body else wanted it." With over 2.5 million members today, I know they're wanted now.

A Sanctified Wedding Day in Green Acres

2010-06-16T08:12:00.005-04:00

My friend Carol Lee is a Nazarene minister in the Holiness tradition. She's also Transgendered. Legally a man, she and her husband-to-be can't marry in her church but next Tuesday they'll leave Indiana to marry at a city hall in Iowa. Why Iowa? Last year, Iowa became the first midwest state with the freedom to marry.

100 Green Acres of Art for Father's Day

2010-06-15T08:30:00.019-04:00

This coming Sunday is also Father's Day and my son Kai, and his other-dad Mike will join Greg and me for the grand opening of the new 100 acre art & nature park at the Indianapolis Museum of Art. Mike loves nature and I love art. What does our sports loving, hip-hop listening son get out of it? Nothing, and we love him for it. HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

Women's Professional Football

2010-06-14T17:01:00.007-04:00

When my son was in elementary school, he wanted to play football and I wouldn't let him...not for years. So, imagine my surprise when I met some of the tough-looking women from Indiana Speed, the local women's professional football team (above). They play hard contact with full pads, and follow NFL rules. I was sacred but I did like the color of their outfits, and asked where I could buy a pair of the shorts. (Click for Pics)

A Saintly Tour

2010-06-14T08:30:00.044-04:00

The Orthodox Catholic Church divided from my Roman Catholic Church in the year 1056 because of its desire to remain unchanged in ideas, in ritual, and in dress. It's called the Great Schism. Indiana has more Orthodox churches than any other state (double that of NY). Fr. Stevan Bauman's Joy of All Who Sorrow Orthodox Church is in Indianapolis. Surrounded by 100s of saintly gold-leafed icons; the elderly, grey bearded and black robed rector gave us a tour of the great mystery and ritual of his Orthodoxy, unchanged after 2,000 years. I hung on every word. Greg and Quinton smiled, and then went to the cafeteria for cokes.

Book Notes: Chapter 5 (7 Weeks Left)

2010-06-11T12:47:00.003-04:00

I'm at the downtown library where I just completed editing Chapter 5 on fundraising. This is a very cool chapter and opens with the following quote by abolitionist Gamaliel Bailey: "Never respect men merely for their riches, but rather for their philanthropy; we do not value the sun for its height, but for its use." Lastly, what's on your summer reading list? Below are four works on my list:

Jane Dagget Dillenberger's The Religious Art of Andy Warhol (1998)
Edward Winkelman's How to Start and Run a Commercial Art Gallery (2009)
Philip Pullman’s The Good Man Jesus and the Scoundrel Christ (2010)
Annie Cohen-Solal's Leo and His Circle: The Life of Leo Castelli (2010)

To Sir, With Love

2010-06-10T14:51:00.003-04:00

Some may think the word "sir" is a sign of age, but this week's “Glee” finale showed that it's also a way to show love. Even our most butch of G.I. Joe friends must have been reduced to tears when Mr. Shue's cast of misfits sang to him a tribute, “To Sir, With Love,” from the film of the same name, for all the lessons he’s taught them over the past season. Maybe Shawn, Mike and Susan, etc. weren't really reduced to tears — but at home in Green Acres, we certainly were.

Scottish Rite Cathedral | Indianapolis

2010-06-10T11:00:00.000-04:00

They don't have mass at the gigantic Scottish Rite Cathedral, but they do give tours. It was built in 1929 for use by the Free Masons. One of them gave me an exciting tour of the Gothic/Tudor designed architecture, the legion of arts windows, and the intricately carved wooden theater. I nearly wanted to join.

Thank you Sir (or Ma'am)

2010-06-10T08:30:00.004-04:00

As I walked into Target, I held the door for a young couple and their kids. The husband turned, and with a deeper voice than mine said, "Thank you, Sir". That 3-letter word, "Sir" has been creeping into too many of my recent conversations. When did someone first say to you: "Thank you Sir or Ma'am", or has it not yet happened? Well, it really stinks, especially when they look to be in their mid-30's. I guess I am officially old!

End Hospital Discrimination Against Gays

2010-06-09T11:03:00.002-04:00

President Obama is moving to ensure that every US hospital, including those in Indiana treats gay families with respect. The Human Rights Campaign (HRC), out of Washington, DC is asking everyone to write the hospital association in their state and demand that they support having a LGBT non-discrimination policy for all the state's hospitals. I sent my letter Monday. Please send your letter today (click here).

Pride Walking with Adamson

2010-06-09T07:15:00.004-04:00

Last June, we were proud to march with openly gay council members in NYC's Pride Parade. This year, we're even more proud to march with Zach Adamson up in Indianapolis during his run for council. Adamson is a Christian, a Democrat, an entreprenuer, he's partnered and Gay too. He also supports the Freedom to Marry. No candidate gets a donation of our time or money without that badge of courage! The march begins on Saturday at the corner of Mass. Ave and College at 9am. We'll be wearing our red/white t-shirts from NYC. If you can't join us, please send a donation to the Adamson campaign: (click here).

PS. Also, check out Mike & Phil's new song for Pride Month on iTunes, and write a review (click here).

A Packed Indiana Weekend

2010-06-08T08:30:00.059-04:00

The weekend was full with more than just ice cream. I started off with openings at IMOCA (go) and four galleries, while Greg and Laurie went to see "Sex and the City" (go). The next day, we drove up to Fort Wayne's Vera Bradley headquarters (go), art Museum, history Center and African American museum (go). That night we even squeezed in the movie, "Killers" (don't go). On Sunday, we "had church" at Eero Saarinen's North Chrisitian Church (go) near that great ice cream parlor (go) in Columbus. The only dissappointment of this full weekend was the Dan Quayle Vice Presidential Library (don't go) in Huntington. Think about it... "Dan Quayle" and "Library", I guess enough said.

Ice Cream Sunday in Columbus, IN

2010-06-07T19:23:00.004-04:00

Columbus, Indiana is home to Zaharako's, an old fashioned ice cream parlor established in 1900. In fact, it's so old the soda jerks still use the old language. For instance, Greg began with "dog soup" and I had a "mug of murk." It was chilly out so we didn't get it "on wheels." For my meal, I had a "Gom" sandwich and an "In the Hay" to drink. Greg had a simple cheeseburger and a chocolate malt. Neither of us had a "fourteen." The whole time there, the self-playing organ blasted Scott Joplin tunes as adults and kids laughed like it was a perfect day. In fact, yesterday really was a perfect day. We hope your's was too.

Book Notes: Chapter 4, "Message" (Week 44 of 52)

2010-06-04T07:30:00.003-04:00

Come join us for two sporting events: Indiana Fever (Women's professional basketball) on Sun., 6/13 at 6pm; and Indianapolis Indians (Minor Leaque Baseball) on Sun., 7/4 at 6pm, but you have to let me know, asap! Lastly, I close out this week's Indiana Chronicle with a Frederick Douglass quote from chapter 4 of our book: "Poets, prophets, and reformers are all picture makers--and this ability is the secret of their power and of their achievement. They see what ought to be by the reflection of what is, and endeavor to remove the contradiction."

Summer Vacation

2010-06-03T09:00:00.005-04:00

Tell me what you are doing for summer vacation. We are driving later this summer to Atlanta. I feel more connected to our country when I get to see it first-hand. We have so many wonderful adventures when we don't plan every minute. Ask me sometime about how my husband almost had to be air-lifted out of the Grand Canyon a few years ago on one such adventure!

Do Ask, Do Tell: Call 202-224-3121

2010-06-02T11:00:00.003-04:00

"Don't Ask, Don't Tell" is a law that says gay soldiers can die for their country as long as they don't tell anyone they are gay. That is wrong but last week, the US House of Representatives voted to repeal the law. It's now up to the US Senate. My Senator Evan Bayh said he will vote for repeal. Will you please call your US senators at 202-224-3121, and ask them to join Bayh? (more info)

Contemporary Religious Art | St. Louis

2010-06-01T11:39:00.002-04:00

This place made me cry (Watch it Bourke!). The Museum of Contemporary Religious Art was established in 1991 in the former Fusz Memorial Chapel. It’s a stately facility and an exceptional place to exhibit contemporary religious art. Greg and I saw their powerful exhibit, “Good Friday” of works produced by artists living with AIDS. I recommend this beautiful museum, and promise we will be back soon. Bad news is it's now closed for the summer.

Memorial: Indy 500

2010-05-31T11:00:00.001-04:00

Since 1911, the Indianapolis 500 has been held on Memorial Day weekend, and it's far more festive than I ever imagined. Celebs are everywhere (Jack Nicholson, Ashley Judd, Pointer Sisters, Florence Henderson, Jim Nabors, etc (Who knew Gomer was still alive?). We went to the parade with Rita, Susan and Laurie; a cookout later; and then headed to the relatives in Cincinnati . Next year, we'll do the whole Indy 500. You should come to Indy too.

Book Notes: Chapter 3, "My Intro" (Week 43 of 52)

2010-05-28T21:06:00.002-04:00

In Chapter 3, I begin with Henry Ward Beecher's 1867 call to action on universal suffrage, “We are in the favored hour; and if you have great principles to make known, this is the time to advocate for them.” From there I go on to discuss how this Arts Management major found himself at a History museum. It's a chapter where you'll also meet some of the people who have had the greatest impact on me like my Dad and Uncle Sam.

Unwanted Visitor Control | Hooterville

2010-05-27T09:52:00.006-04:00

Okay, suburban/country life lovers, I need your advice again. This time it's how to keep unwanted visitors from coming back each year? Moles! This week, I about broke my ankle near our back porch on a new set of tunnels and that was the last straw. In true Green Acres fashion, I borrowed a pitch fork from the neighbor down the road and after just minutes of stabbing into the tunnels, I hit pay dirt. I had no idea they were so small and ugly, about the size of a rat with large webbed front feet. One down!

New Gallup Poll on Freedom to Marry

2010-05-26T08:30:00.002-04:00

Opposition to the freedom to marry is at its lowest levels ever, according to a new Gallup Poll shared by my former ED, Evan Wolfson:

"Over time, Americans have become more accepting of legal same-sex marriage, and a growing number of subgroups now show majority support for it. However, religious and conservative segments of the U.S. population remain largely opposed -- even though their support for gay marriage has also increased in recent years. Because religious and conservative groups are larger than nonreligious and left-leaning groups in the United States, overall, more Americans remain opposed to, rather than in favor of, same-sex marriage."

Art for the Freedom to Marry | New York City

2010-05-25T08:30:00.003-04:00

"Everyone should have the right to marry" ~ LOUISE BOURGEOIS

Freedom to Marry, headquarted in New York City is offering an exclusive art edition entitled "I do, 2010," by French artist Louis Bourgeois. Best known for her spider sculptures, her work is included in the collection of the Museum of Modern Art. It is an abstract painting of two flowers joined on a single stem created with archival dyes on cloth with embroidery and there are only 300 prints available. To arrange for purchase of one of these editions, visit www.freedomtomarry.org/ido or call 212-851-8418.

Just Two Months Left

2010-05-24T09:04:00.007-04:00

Over these final weeks, we have a lot more to share via The Indiana Chronicles: The Indy 500, the Dan Quayle Library, Michael Jackson's Home, Disciples of Christ Headquarters. We'll take you to all these place but this weekend, we just stayed home. Greg mowed, we enjoyed the new "Shrek" movie, and went to church on Sunday. What was your adventure?

St. Vincent De Paul Church | NYC

2010-05-24T08:30:00.014-04:00

Visualize a Catholic Mass where the choir is all Haitian and the congregation of Parisians all pray in French. That was my home church in New York City, Saint Vincent De Paul Church in Chelsea. The only problem was this artistically exceptional church was falling apart. I am glad to hear that now the French Heritage Society is raising funds to save NYC's only French house of worship.

Book Notes: Chapter 2, "Genesis" (Only 10 weeks left)

2010-05-21T08:30:00.012-04:00

First off, you are invited to Village Life Outreach Project's Coffee Kick-off event tomorrow, Saturday, May 22 from 7-9pm. If you care about improving life conditions in Africa; you like coffee; and you are in Cincinnati, this is a no brainer. I hope you'll attend. Speaking of great projects, in Chapter 2 of our book, I explore how Ed Rigaud and Leon Boothe became two of the early leaders at the Freedom Center.

Click here for invite: http://www.villagelifeoutreach.org/sitepages/downloads/Coffee_Kick-off_Flyer.pdf

Green Acres vs. City Life

2010-05-20T11:44:00.009-04:00

We are just back from looking at condos in downtown Indianapolis. My husband loves urban life. I love the country/suburbs. He loves living close enough to walk to shops, galleries and restaurants. I love wide open spaces, mowing the lawn and quiet streets. We want your advice. What do you see as the pros and cons of living in Green Acres vs. City life?

A Lesbian on the Supreme Court?

2010-05-19T12:30:00.000-04:00

What if we had a Supreme Court justice who was gay? In a Vanity Fair poll, 55% of Americans said they'd support an openly gay or lesbian person on the bench. Some, on the left and on the right, are saying that Obama's nominee Elena Kagan is a lesbian. Does it matter? Despite what 55% say, will it matter when the hearings begin?

Anti-gay Indiana Rep. quits after sex scandal

2010-05-19T12:00:00.001-04:00

Another hypocrite bites the dust. Rep. Mark Souder, R-Indiana, an outspoken “family values” politician and husband has resigned his seat after acknowledging he had an affair. Souder has long been a crusader in the House against the freedom to marry. This year, he signed an amicus brief in a case against D.C.'s new marriage law. We don't need such a bigot and hypocrite representing us in Indiana.

Indy Has 2 Equity Theaters

2010-05-18T23:47:00.001-04:00

NYC-based Actor's Equity has two member groups in Indianapolis: Indiana Repertory Theater and Phoenix Theater. Actor's Equity was founded in 1913. When it's an Equity production, you can be sure it's quality. Tonight, we saw a production of "Yankee Tavern" at Phoenix Theater, the smaller to the two local groups (located in a former church). The play was fantastic, but which will give us the better networking opportunity for clients/collectors?

Review: Just Wright

2010-05-18T08:30:00.001-04:00

We both had a fun time at Queen Latifah's new film, "Just Wright" and give it two thumbs up. Sure it is a sugar sweet Cinderella marries Basketball star story but from the first scene forward, you care what happens to the characters. No, there are no surprises in the movie but there are some great lines, like her cousin who says, "Some women have Gaydar. Well, I have Hoedar." or Latifah's line, "Well, you better be pack'in someth'in in that wallet because I'm not one of those salad eat'in chicks." If you love romance, basketball, music, interior design or even old mustangs, you should see this movie.

A Sanctuary from Lynching & Hate

2010-05-17T08:30:00.004-04:00

1. You only have 14 days left to see an exhibit on lynching (1882-1968) in Cincinnati. It ends May 31st. Presented by the National Underground Railroad Freedom Center, the exhibit of postcards exits into a seating area where you learn about lynching today. Why should you see it? The Freedom Center’s website says it is a reminder of all the,"… minorities, gays and lesbians, transgender individuals and others – who need sanctuary from intimidation and oppression"

Book Notes: Chapter 1, "Cincinnati's Worst Hours" (11 weeks left)

2010-05-14T08:30:00.008-04:00

"If I can but get to Cincinnati, then I will be free." ~ Anonymous Fugitive Slave

In Chapter 1, I've written about the events in Cincinnati that prompted the founding of the National Underground Railroad Freedom Center. I discuss why it was founded and who claims credit. There is a heavy emphasis on racism but also on the impact of homophobia. As in all 11 chapters of the manuscript, I begin with the news reports and then discuss what happened behind the headlines.

Review: Iron Man 2b

2010-05-13T09:38:00.003-04:00

I thought it had everything you could need. Drama, suspense, hot actors, comedy and great chemistry! You also could follow it without having to figure every little detail out. I love ever actor in it and was completely entertained!! 7 thumbs up!!

Review: Iron Man 2

2010-05-13T08:30:00.001-04:00

Robert Downey Jr's new "Iron Man 2" is loaded with blasts, explosions and smash-ups. Greg gives it a thumbs up; and me, I give it a thumbs down. I found it lively yet unemotional. It is sci-fiction without a "wow" factor. Even though it did make $133 million, I've nearly forgotten (Yawn) I even went to see....ZZzzzzz.

Final Report: Garage Sale | Hooterville

2010-05-12T08:30:00.005-04:00

"No women's clothes here," said Greg to the chatty blue haired lady at our garage sale, "...just men's clothes." She was one of probably 600 white people who came to our sale. I was the only Black person in that garage for 3-days and was often inside unboxing or re-boxing goods. Probing for more information, the old lady asked Greg, "Oh, so you must be a bachelor?" He slowly answered, "Well, sort of; at least until recently..." Then as if on cue, I stepped back outside with a new item. She looked up at me, then back at Greg; then rushed to her car without another word. We still made $650.

My Uncle on Mother's Day

2010-05-11T09:02:00.007-04:00

We feasted like big Fat Cats in Cincinnati at the Palm Court Netherland Hilton for Mother's Day. Honestly, it was decadent. My Uncle Samuel and I had a great time together, and he wolfed down eight deserts all by himself (and he's a small man). I now need a "Son's Fitness Day." So, how did you celebrate Mother's Day?

Present: Mom, Aunt Kaye, Uncle Sam, Greg, Kai, Mike, Kevin, and Me

My Dad's 1st Anniversary

2010-05-10T12:30:00.009-04:00

Where do you go when looking for your Father, after he's gone? A year ago, he passed on, and I went looking for him in Central Park. I found him near some roses. We had Mister Softie shakes and talked. He said, "Ern, it's alright." This year, I went to Home Depot. He was there explaining things to me, and he said, "Ern, it's alright." It's funny, I can't see him but he's always there when I go looking for him.

Today is Day 2 of Yard Sale

2010-05-07T10:11:00.001-04:00

What surprised me most on day one (yesterday) of our 3-day garage/yard sale was how many women bought things because their "rich" sister or sister-in-law had the same thing. They went to yard sales to "keep up with the Joneses", who were also their relatives. I wonder how they explain the new purchases to their relatives? Anyway, we made $390 on day one but today it's supposed to rain. We can't wait until Saturday.

A Duckpin in Green Acres

2010-05-06T08:30:00.000-04:00

Back in the 1900s, bowling balls and pins were shaved down to half size for summer bowling called, “Duckpin bowling.” Even today, there are duckpin houses out East—but also right here in Green Acres, Fountain Square. Interested? We’ve watched but have yet to bowl. Just set the date and we’ll all head out to bowl duckpins.

Review: The Back-up Plan

2010-05-05T07:26:00.000-04:00

I seldom enjoy a film as much as I did Jennifer Lopez’s, “The Back-up Plan.” Problem is no one seems to agree. About halfway through, with me laughing continuously, Greg nudged me and said, “Honey, it’s not that funny.” Also the theater was nearly empty and two couples walked out! When I got home, I read one bad review after another. Anyone planning to see it?

Forgetting Anniversarys

2010-05-04T08:30:00.001-04:00

During dinner Saturday, Jennifer joked about how often she and Andrea miss their anniversary; sometimes by a full week. A quick second later, Andrea said with a look of shock and glee, "Not this year. It's in two days!" Jennifer was just as surprised and we all laughed. Happy 14th anniversary Ladies, and we wish you the Freedom to Marry very soon. (If you don't forget)

Safely Off-Broadway

2010-05-03T08:30:00.006-04:00

I was scheduled to return to New York City for a meeting this past weekend, and to see a show on Saturday night. On Saturday night, there was a Car Bomb in Times Square. I wasn’t able to make the weekend trip, but on Sunday morning as I listened to the news, I thanked God for the safety of the people in Times Square and for keeping me safely in Green Acres.

Book Notes: Naming the Manuscript | 13 Weeks Left

2010-04-30T08:30:00.040-04:00

Congratulations to Greg (my husband) for making his first post this week on The Indiana Chronicle! He will continue posting every Thursday for these final 13 weeks of the blog. I am sure you will enjoy his Hoosier humor.

Also, this week I've been tinkering with names for our Freedom Center manuscript (book). What would you call it? As you already know, its about the museum's development from the public relations perspective. Some of the titles I've written down are, "Lighting Freedom's Flame," "10 Years Rising on the Ohio," "Freedom's Story," and a hilarious favorite from a former colleague, "Run Like Hell for Freedom." Send me your ideas. There's not much time left.

Green Acres Space & Time

2010-04-29T08:30:00.004-04:00

Living in Green Acres, with plenty of wide open space, we shouldn't get in each others way --right? That's not the case with my mother and sister. Yesterday morning, Sis was running late for her 60-minute commute to work and forgot that mom was driving over to sit with the sick grandkid. Sis got into her car, pressed the button to open the garage door and quickly backed out...Bam!!

Joe & George’s Freedom to Marry

2010-04-28T06:30:00.002-04:00

Joe and George just celebrated 30 years together, and I asked, “What do you give the man whom you’ve shared 30 years?” George answered, as he stepped into their truck, “Nothin, we stopped doin all holiday gifts a decade ago. We’re just practical. If he needs a pair of shoes, we just check the budget. I am his present and he is mine.” These two guys deserve the freedom to marry in Indiana.

Happy anniversary guys!

Indy Arts Cinema

2010-04-27T09:09:00.005-04:00

Does every Green Acres community, outside of our very own Hooterville have a place like Keystone Arts Cinema up in Indianapolis? While watching the film, “Ghost Writer,” we munched on vegan cookies as others drank bottles of fancy red wine and iced beer from tin buckets. We recommend both the film and the cinema, even after the 60-minute drive up from Hooterville.

Sunday Morning in Green Acres & NYC

2010-04-26T09:06:00.005-04:00

Yesterday morning, while driving to our church, we wondered if you were headed to your church too? There were so many house lights still off here in Hooterville. It made me wonder. While I was in New York City, I saved pictures of the many churches I visited and wanted to remember once I returned to Green Acres. I’d love to have an image of your church to remind me of you (or a web link). Who is willing to share?

Book Notes: (38/52) 14 Weeks Left

2010-04-23T08:30:00.008-04:00

Thank God it's raining this morning. It's been a bad hayfever week but at least writing went well; and we have big weekend plans. Tonight, we head up to Indy for the Stutz Artist Open House. Tomorrow, we prep for our Garage Sale, May 6-8 and on Saturday, we'll see the movie "Ghost Writer". Finally, we hope to top things off on Sunday with a bike ride along the White River - Canal. What are your plans?

Who Made the Sauce?

2010-04-22T08:30:00.006-04:00

Our nieghbor Ryan doesn't eat much pizza because he's a fitness nut. He does however, love supporting churches, so when our gay church had a fundraiser selling pizzas, we delivered one next door to his family. Later that night he texted, "One of the men at your church must have made my sausage and anchovie pizza. It has too much (sugar) in the sauce. "

Unfinished Business

2010-04-21T08:30:00.004-04:00

2008 Whitney Biennial artist Heather Rowe, whose works look like unfinished rooms, recently spoke at the Indianapolis Museum of Art. As she wrapped up her Q&A, our friend Ryan rushed out to the Men’s restroom, but finding it full he snuck into the Women's restroom (He knocked first). Once inside an empty stall, Ryan caught a glimpse, through his door spacing, of Heather Rowe entering. She paused, looked around and darted out! Ryan thinks her next piece will be "Unfinished Restroom."

Monday Night Championships

2010-04-20T08:30:00.007-04:00

On Monday nights our church has couples bible study, but two weeks ago, hometown Butler University was to play North Carolina for the NCAA championship. The lesbian couples wanted to leave early, but Greg said, "Why? My DVR is already set for 'Dancing with the Stars'." When we told our nieghbor Ryan, he said, "Your church is the only one in Indy where the women rushed home for the final game and the men to see 'Dancing with the Stars'."

A Monumental Climb

2010-04-19T08:39:00.004-04:00

Our neighbor Terry is an artist, a dad and a fitness nut. Last week, he forced his wife and their two small children to climb the 331 steep stairs to the top of Soldier's & Sailor's Monument up in downtown Indianapolis. It's 21 feet shorter than the Statue of Liberty. To meet his fitness brag, we did it on Sunday. This morning... I can't walk.

Book Notes: Funding Strategies (Wk 36/52)

2010-04-16T08:30:00.013-04:00

One of the toughest sections to write in our Freedom Center book was about the PR preparation for the purchase of general obligation bonds. How does one explain needing $50 million in bonds when you've also reported raising $110 million? Also, how do you explain the rules of legal arbitrage? I had a good teacher in that preparation, our CFO Gary. This week, I was at the Freedom Center and heard that it's now finally "debt-free" and I credit Gary's bonds.

Tax Day: Gay couples face higher health costs

2010-04-15T08:30:00.057-04:00

Recently, MarketWatch did a tax-day analysis of the health-care tax inequality for gay couples. For my husband, for instance, a technician with a Fortune 500 company, the value of health benefits for me, as his self-employed husband (Domestic Partner) adds $8,955 to his annual income. This increases his yearly tax bill by about $2,300. Bottom-line, until we achieve full marriage equality, tax inequality will remain.

REVIEW: "Date Night"

2010-04-14T08:30:00.006-04:00

I was skeptical of the humor of SNL alumni Tina Fey and Steve Carell, but in their new formulaic couple's comedy, "Date Night," these two are absolutely funny. The audience laughter kept growing with scene-after-scene of unexpected hilarity, and everyone left the theater with a huge smile. Mom went too. We all recommend it.

GLEE's Sue Sylvester Returns tonight

2010-04-13T08:30:00.027-04:00

If you don't watch "Glee" tonight there just might be something wrong with you. It's a hit new TV show that takes place in Green Acres, Ohio where Sue Sylvester teaches high school. She even has her own opinion segment on the local news (see clip below). You haven't heard of Sue? Turn to Fox at 9:30 p..m. and get Gleeked tonight.

The Scientists of Religion | Green Acres

2010-04-12T08:30:00.009-04:00

Above the pulpit at the Center for Spiritual Living in Green Acres is a large painting of a "V". The happy congregants all looked normal but when the pastor, a self-described "religious scientist" got up, she talked of Star Wars and Star Trek. It was Sunday morning service but at any moment I was sure someone would say, "Beam me up Scotty."

Book Notes: Fundraising Heroes (Wk 35/52)

2010-04-09T08:30:00.010-04:00

After eight weeks away, I finally returned to serious book writing this week. There are only 17 weeks left to finish writing, including The Indiana Chronicles and it felt good to dive back into my Freedom Center papers (diaries, publications, memorabilia). This chapter focuses on fundraising messaging strategies, and highlights my fundraising heroes like Ed Rigaud, but not everyone in this chapter is a hero.

Chicken & Waffles and a Yankee

2010-04-08T08:30:00.004-04:00

Our church's next Couples' Social Event will be a "Night at the Theatre" on Saturday, May 1. Should we go? Anyone ever seen a production of Yankee Tavern? It'll be at the Phoenix Theatre and costs $40 per couple. They also plan to meet for pre-dinner at Maxine's Chicken and Waffles. Has anyone ever had chicken & waffles? We are both in the dark on all this but maybe it's a Green Acres thing. Thoughts?

Mr. Haney's Furniture Sale

2010-04-07T08:30:00.009-04:00

We've ordered new living room furniture from Mr. Haney's Hooterville furniture store. After comparing prices with the stores up in Indianapolis: Bakers, Mitchell-Gold, Williams-Sonoma Home, etc., we settled on Green Acres produced furniture: a couch, chaise, media center and ottoman. It is 1/3 the cost, and we have Mr. Haney's promise that it'll last forever.

Home from St. Louis

2010-04-06T08:30:00.006-04:00

We had a great trip to St. Louis for Easter weekend. Our $50 priceline.com room at the Hyatt had a riverview of the arch, and we pushed to do all the things you suggested: The Pulitzer Foundation for the Arts, the museums in Fresno Park, the Arch, Macy's downtown, Obama's favorite STL pizza Pi, the glittering Basilica, and more. Thanks for all the great suggestions!

Living the Days of Lent 2010

2010-04-05T09:08:00.004-04:00

"Take away the stone." (John 11:39) is one of the 40 scriptures from a book of reflections my Mom gave to me, "Living the Days of Lent 2010" written by the Sisters of Charity of Saint Elizabeth. I'll leave many of them plastered on our walls. I hope this year's Lenten season helped you, as it did me to take away the stone. Happy Easter Monday.

Good Friday Blessings

2010-04-02T08:30:00.002-04:00

It's Good Friday and I am looking forward to meeting my son Kai tonight for dinner in Greensburg, half way between Indianapolis and Cincinnati. Have a blessed Easter weekend, and I hope you enjoyed yesterdays April Fool's Day tale about the Soybean Farm. I sure enjoyed the responses. Chat again with you on Monday.